What I will not be doing in 2018

Well hello everybody! I’m back. My last post was in August last year and I know that is shocking but heres the thing I could make so many excuses about why I didn’t make any more blog posts last year but I’m going to be real with you. I GOT LAZY, I could say that I ran out of blog posts ideas but we all know there are so many tools out there to help us when we get writers block. In 2017 towards the end I became very lazy but I’m back and I’m ready to make a proper go at this.

I am going to list what I’m not going to do in 2018 because there are so many things that I want to do and have been wanting to do for years but the following list has held me back from everything which I am sure many of you can relate to so here goes..

  1. I am not going to fall into counting my calories at any stage this year, for years now I have been slipping back into that and I’ve wasted my life doing so, disagree with me if you please but it didn’t work for me. I am instead going to exercise as much as possible and only do what I enjoy and I’m going to make better food decisions. My goal is to live a healthier lifestyle and me counting calories is not a healthy thing in my opinion but if you do that and it works for you then that’s wonderful but it’s a toxic habit for me.

2.I am under no circumstances going to let my anxiety win this year, all of last year I battled with my anxiety and I let it stop me from experiencing new things and I in return missed out on so many amazing opportunities. This lady once said at a conference that I went to that “We often jump back into hiding behind anxiety because it’s our comfort zone and it’s all we know and it’s our excuse to not push ourselves harder”. So this year I am going to be jumping out of my comfort zone. I am doing well so far, yesterday I went to the river and I loved it, I almost stayed home because I was nervous but I am so glad that I didn’t because I had a wonderful day with family. Also yesterday I drove a car that was different from my own and it sounds silly but I was so nervous about it because I am so used to my tiny car but I felt so proud after I did it and it wasn’t bad at all. Apparently I was very natural at it so there ya go.

3. The third thing that I will not be doing in 2018 is assuming the worst of people, I lost track how many times last year I had my husband say to me that I always assumed the worst of people and it wasn’t a nice feeling at all. Nobody feels great when they assume the worst of people it goes without saying. Why do we slip back into it so easily? I attempted some research on it and I couldn’t find anything but I was also the kid where my mum would tell me to look for something and I couldn’t find it but she’d take a minute and would find it. If you have some research on it please let me know about it down in the comments because I would love to know more about it. Assuming the worst of other people is such a common thing and I bet that everybody has slipped into doing it at least once in their lives but my goal this year is to recognize when I’m doing it and train my brain into not doing it. Everyone has their own paths that they’ve walked and we aren’t called to judge others.

4. The internet is no longer going to consume my every waking moment this year, last year I became very obsessed and all I’d do with every spare moment I had was scroll through websites like Instagram and Facebook and would subconsciously compare my life to others lives, especially celebrities and youtubers. This time was wasted when I should have been using my time more productively like achieving last years goal of reading ten books, getting housework done and planning blog posts. This year I will use the internet for blogging, supporting other bloggers and only when necessary, after I’ve written and published this blog post I am going to go and read the book that I’ve been trying to finish for months. Not being chained to the internet feels so freeing and I totally recommend it.

5. Gone are the days where I take the easy way out, in the paragraph about anxiety I mentioned that I was using my anxiety as an excuse to get out of doing things that I thought would be hard and it was definitely the easy way out. I was lacking in my responsibilities because I was opting to take the easy way out and I am not going to do that this year. I let so many people down last year because of me being lazy and I felt horrible about it. I will be working harder in all of my responsibilities and I am going to be thankful for them and trust that I have been fortunate enough to have been given those opportunities for a reason and that the people who have given them to me trust me enough to do so.

So as you can see it’s going to be a very busy year in terms of me essentially bettering myself in every way and I’m looking forward to it. I would love to know your goals for the year so please let me know in the comments about what you’re going to be getting up to.

Have a lovely day/night 🙂



Five things that made me smile in August 🍁

As mentioned in one of my previous posts, the last two months were rough but August was good to me (besides me getting sick) I have been trying to find something good in every situation and it has been working a treat. I have also decided to pick out things each month that have brightened up my month. Warning: I am a crazy animal lady so a few animals will be mentioned. Also I am aware that I keep making lists as blog posts but I love me some lists. 

1. As always, one person that has made me truly happy is my wonderful husband Josh. He is one of the most selfless people I have ever met and he is fantatstic in situations when I need to calm down. Him and I were sick quite often last month and even when he was sick, he was still putting my needs before his. I’m aware that a husband is supposed to do that but Josh goes above and beyond and I’m so grateful for him. I mean look at his smile, he just lights up the room. 

2. Basil and Mikey. Basil is my mums crazy little Shih Tzu and Mikey is my  handsome little kitty cat. Oh my goodness these two made me so happy last month, they make me happy all the time but they’re definitely worth mentioning. Basil is a little pocket rocket and my mum sure has her hands full with him as it’s like having a toddler but he’s so lovable. I am more of a cat person than a dog person but Basil definitely brings a smile to my face. My favourite animal of all time is my beautiful kitty cat Mikey, he is such a little darling, Josh and I are convinced that he’s a dog stuck in a cats body, he’s so affectionate and he is so well suited to Josh and I. I’m so grateful for him, he has such a sweet nature to him. Below is a picture of Basil and he is showing us his pearly whites and then below that is a picture of Mikey in his favourite spot in our house (also spy him playing with the cord). 

3. I have been enjoying reading recently and I began reading a fantastic book last month called ‘Immeasurably more’ by the author Cris Rogers. I am a Christian and I enjoy reading Christian non-fiction books so when I go to the library I spend all my time in that section. (Also can we all talk about how great library’s are!). This book has been such an interesting read, the Tagline on the book caught me and that’s why I picked it up. It reads “to a dehydrated church, Jesus has immeasurably more to offer”. That tagline hit me so hard and the book has continued to do, so I truly recommend this book to everyone, it’s a very pretty read too with loads of colourful pages so that’s a bonus. You can purchase this book at all bookstores so go grab it. I’m definitely going to purchase it because it’s a book worth keeping. As you can see below, the cover is captivating. 

4. The kids at my work were definitely a highlight of last month, I am very lucky and I get to work with an amazing group of children who bring a smile to my face everyday no matter what. Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I’m pulling my hair out, but no matter what happens, there is always a handful of children that make it all worth it. I am looking forward to having children of my own as God has put the passion of children on my heart and I know it will be different with my own but I am loving learning about how children’s brains work and I’m learning different ways to go about things. The children at my job teach me to have fun every now again and not to take everything too seriously all the time. It’s important to have a job you love and I love my job. 

5. My family make every day incredible, I’m very fortunate that the family that I was born into is so awesome and we hardly ever have problems, I’m very close with my mum and I always have been and I love seeing her everyday and having a little chit chat (mums are awesome! Am I right!?). My mum is my hero, she is so selfless and I truly admire her for her resilience in all situations. Not only the family that I was born into are amazing, the family that I married into is. I am so grateful that I have so many positive influences in my life and I don’t know where I would be without them. The family that I married into have been so welcoming to me right from the start and that’s their culture and they have certainly helped me to come out of my shell which has been great. Both my families get along so well which makes everything awesome as well.

Well that’s a list of five things that made me happy last month, I’m back into blogging and I’m excited. Thank you for reading , I hope you enjoyed it and I’d love to hear below in the comments about five things that made you happy last month 🌸

Finding your people

Hello everybody, I have been learning a few life lessons recently so you might see a bit of a pattern going on in these posts. It has been a challenging season in my life at the moment but I am learning valuable lessons from this season so it has been worth it. One valuable lesson I have learned is finding the people who will stick by me and for myself personally who are the people that will help me to grow closer to God as that’s important to me.

As I mentioned above, I have been learning many life lessons recently and I hadn’t really opened up about it to anyone until sometime last week when I had a weekly catch up with one of my good friends. The conversations we had were pretty much the same as every week and I was just happy listening and giving advice when needed until I absolutely broke down in tears revealing to my friend what I had been going through. My friend was so wonderful, she listened to me and gave me advice and didn’t judge me no matter what. She also said “I can help you for five seconds, you need to give it to God”, so I did and it really helped. The incredible thing about this conversation was that my wonderful friend knew exactly what I needed which was her to listen and not judge me, it felt so freeing being able to open up to her. I open up to my Husband but this was a female problem and she understood exactly what i was going through.

I can not stress enough of how important it is to have the right people in your circle, I have had many friends come and go throughout my life and they have brought great life lessons with them. Many I have had to let go but it has been for the better as I now know my worth and how I deserve to be treated and you should too. Friendship is give and take not just take take and take so think about that, who in your life is just taking or maybe you’re the friend that’s just taking, do something about it. Are there any people in your life that are toxic and are perhaps worth talking to about it, try talking to the person before you go and cut them out, they may be willing to change and if you are the friend then be willing to change. I’m no expert on this topic at all, in my experience I have talked to the people in my past and we just kept clashing so it didn’t work but everybody is different and it may just work for you and the friends that you’re struggling with. Just remember that we are all human and we will make mistakes, we’re all on this crazy journey of life together and we’re all trying to do our best.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope you got something from it, if you feel like sharing, comment below some friendship experiences you have had, I’d love to know. I hope you have a fantastic rest of your work and enjoy your weekend! xx

10 facts about me 🌸

Welcome to my blog or if you’re returning welcome back 😊 As I am new to this there are things about me that you may not know so I’m making this post so you can find out ten facts about me. 

1. Between my Husband and I, we have 20 nieces and nephews all up. Eleven on my side and nine on Joshs (my Husband) 

2. I got married last year at nineteen and our wedding theme was a Disney theme which was so sweet. My husband and I love Disney so it was rather fitting. We are Christians and it is rather normal to get married at a young age if you’re Christian. 

3. I have been a Christian for seven years and I come from a family that isn’t religious but I am very blessed that they support me. My mum came to my baptism and it meant a lot to me. 

4. I was a premature baby when I was born, I was 5 pounds, 4 ounces and I was the smallest baby that was born in that hospital for years. Looking at me now, you wouldn’t be able to tell that I was a prem. 

5. I have grown up with my parents running a motel which meant it was harder for us to go on family holidays but my parents did their best to organise holidays when they could. All my friends thought that my life was like the suite life of zack and Cody but it wasn’t, we lived in a house off the motel so it was reasonably normal in that aspect, despite people thinking I lived in one of the motel units. 

6. I took singing lessons when I was ten years old and I really enjoyed it, I was learning to sing opera, my love of opera comes from the movie Phantom of the opera. I didn’t continue them as I get older and sometimes I miss doing them. I like to look up singing lessons on YouTube which is just as great. At the moment I’m learning riffs. 

7. I love children, I work at an after school care and help out at two different playgroups. I cannot wait to have a family of my own. You may see a few posts from me at some point of my experiences working at an after school care. I have loved every moment of it, even with it’s ups and downs (just like every job). 

8. I get a low form of anxiety when it comes to crowds. I find myself shutting down when I’m in a massive crowd, I’m very lucky to have only a low form of anxiety and each day I’m working on ways to kick it to the curb. 

9. I help lead the youth group at my church and I love it. We are currently making big changes to it and it’s going smoothly so far. I have a huge passion for youth and I am so grateful that our youth pastor believed in me when I was in high school and asked me to help out from a young age. 

10. I am terrible at maths and don’t have amazing grammar. One thing you won’t see on this blog is amazing grammar, I loved English at school but I wasn’t particularly great at it. I was in the lowest class for maths at school and I am still trying to teach myself maths on the daily. 

I’d love to know facts about you, let me know in the comments below 💕