Finding your people

Hello everybody, I have been learning a few life lessons recently so you might see a bit of a pattern going on in these posts. It has been a challenging season in my life at the moment but I am learning valuable lessons from this season so it has been worth it. One valuable lesson I have learned is finding the people who will stick by me and for myself personally who are the people that will help me to grow closer to God as that’s important to me.

As I mentioned above, I have been learning many life lessons recently and I hadn’t really opened up about it to anyone until sometime last week when I had a weekly catch up with one of my good friends. The conversations we had were pretty much the same as every week and I was just happy listening and giving advice when needed until I absolutely broke down in tears revealing to my friend what I had been going through. My friend was so wonderful, she listened to me and gave me advice and didn’t judge me no matter what. She also said “I can help you for five seconds, you need to give it to God”, so I did and it really helped. The incredible thing about this conversation was that my wonderful friend knew exactly what I needed which was her to listen and not judge me, it felt so freeing being able to open up to her. I open up to my Husband but this was a female problem and she understood exactly what i was going through.

I can not stress enough of how important it is to have the right people in your circle, I have had many friends come and go throughout my life and they have brought great life lessons with them. Many I have had to let go but it has been for the better as I now know my worth and how I deserve to be treated and you should too. Friendship is give and take not just take take and take so think about that, who in your life is just taking or maybe you’re the friend that’s just taking, do something about it. Are there any people in your life that are toxic and are perhaps worth talking to about it, try talking to the person before you go and cut them out, they may be willing to change and if you are the friend then be willing to change. I’m no expert on this topic at all, in my experience I have talked to the people in my past and we just kept clashing so it didn’t work but everybody is different and it may just work for you and the friends that you’re struggling with. Just remember that we are all human and we will make mistakes, we’re all on this crazy journey of life together and we’re all trying to do our best.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope you got something from it, if you feel like sharing, comment below some friendship experiences you have had, I’d love to know. I hope you have a fantastic rest of your work and enjoy your weekend! xx

10 facts about me πŸŒΈ

Welcome to my blog or if you’re returning welcome back 😊 As I am new to this there are things about me that you may not know so I’m making this post so you can find out ten facts about me. 

1. Between my Husband and I, we have 20 nieces and nephews all up. Eleven on my side and nine on Joshs (my Husband) 

2. I got married last year at nineteen and our wedding theme was a Disney theme which was so sweet. My husband and I love Disney so it was rather fitting. We are Christians and it is rather normal to get married at a young age if you’re Christian. 

3. I have been a Christian for seven years and I come from a family that isn’t religious but I am very blessed that they support me. My mum came to my baptism and it meant a lot to me. 

4. I was a premature baby when I was born, I was 5 pounds, 4 ounces and I was the smallest baby that was born in that hospital for years. Looking at me now, you wouldn’t be able to tell that I was a prem. 

5. I have grown up with my parents running a motel which meant it was harder for us to go on family holidays but my parents did their best to organise holidays when they could. All my friends thought that my life was like the suite life of zack and Cody but it wasn’t, we lived in a house off the motel so it was reasonably normal in that aspect, despite people thinking I lived in one of the motel units. 

6. I took singing lessons when I was ten years old and I really enjoyed it, I was learning to sing opera, my love of opera comes from the movie Phantom of the opera. I didn’t continue them as I get older and sometimes I miss doing them. I like to look up singing lessons on YouTube which is just as great. At the moment I’m learning riffs. 

7. I love children, I work at an after school care and help out at two different playgroups. I cannot wait to have a family of my own. You may see a few posts from me at some point of my experiences working at an after school care. I have loved every moment of it, even with it’s ups and downs (just like every job). 

8. I get a low form of anxiety when it comes to crowds. I find myself shutting down when I’m in a massive crowd, I’m very lucky to have only a low form of anxiety and each day I’m working on ways to kick it to the curb. 

9. I help lead the youth group at my church and I love it. We are currently making big changes to it and it’s going smoothly so far. I have a huge passion for youth and I am so grateful that our youth pastor believed in me when I was in high school and asked me to help out from a young age. 

10. I am terrible at maths and don’t have amazing grammar. One thing you won’t see on this blog is amazing grammar, I loved English at school but I wasn’t particularly great at it. I was in the lowest class for maths at school and I am still trying to teach myself maths on the daily. 

I’d love to know facts about you, let me know in the comments below πŸ’•